Is there anything more complicated than learning to love oneself? The longer I am on the planet, the more convinced I am that I know the answer to that question. Of course, I only know my own journey.
There are some things that cannot lead to love of self:
· Affirmations, otherwise known as wishin’ and hopin’ and prayin’ and thinkin’ -- These come right out of the “ask, believe, receive” model, which has no power.
· Loving someone else reeeallly hard – If we cannot learn to at least like ourselves, we may have a hard time genuinely loving another. We can’t give what we don’t have.
So how on Earth, or Heaven, can we discover a path to loving ourselves? To tell you the truth, I’m not sure I know the solid ground of it yet. But there are a few things that have been helpful to me:
· Owning my humanness – Perfection is not an option. We didn’t incarnate because we are perfect examples of enlightenment, except for a rare few. We are here to practice, and I need all the practice I can get.
· Forgiving my humanness – The act of real forgiveness requires that we first come to know our cluelessness, our meanness, our cruelty, our laziness, and forgiveness implies a conscious, ongoing attempt to not repeat our offenses.
Every. Single. Day. I find I need more practice at not repeating my offenses, as I step into the world or onto Facebook. I’m hoping practice does make perfect. See you out there.